I attended a cenference a while back and thought I would share the information I learned from Linda Mintle.
If you have a problem with a difficult person- don't cut them off. It makes you a better person to figure it out. God puts us in relationship. How i love is how i show Christ's love to others.
Here is a simple belief that creates relationship problems... we try to change others!
Year 2, 7 and 15 are tricky years in a relationship. Truth - I cannot change anyone.
Relationship dance steps:
Discuss- Avoid
Demand - Refuse
Criticize - defend (avoid)
Accuse - deny
Pursue - distance
Attach - withdraw
Attack - attack
withdraw - withdraw
We need to change your step in the dance and the relationship dance changes.
The Change Process:
Surrender.
1 peter 5:6
"humble yourselves, therefore, under God's mighty hand, that He may lift you up in due time.
Accept the need for change
psalm 139:1
Confess your behavior (couples pray together) you will be A M A Z E D what praying together can do. Please - try it... please.
james 5:16
Take responsibility
galations 6:5
Forgive (forgiveness takes one - ouch!)
matthew 6:14
Be Transformed
2 corinthians 3:18
Persevere
2 peter 1:5
No relationship is beyond repare if you are willing to reconcile. Forgiveness takes 1 - reconciliation takes 2.
Pray, Forgive, Do things together, Control your tongue (james 3) Deal with conflict and focus on the positivies.
This may be vague but the information really helped me so I wanted to write it down on here. Thanks! :)
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